What happens in My First Counselling Session?

Coming to counselling for the first time can feel a little uncertain — that’s completely normal. Many people aren’t sure what to expect, and part of my role as a counsellor is to create a welcoming, calm space where you feel in control of the process from the very beginning.

You’re in control

Your first session is your time. We’ll move at a pace that feels comfortable for you. There’s no pressure to share anything you’re not ready to — you decide what we talk about and how much detail you want to go into. My aim is to offer a safe, supportive space where you can start exploring what’s been going on for you.

Taking care of the practical bits

At the start, I’ll spend a few minutes going through the counselling contract with you. This sets out how we work together and helps us both feel clear about what to expect. We’ll cover important points such as confidentiality; that what you talk about stays between us. I’ll also explain the few exceptions when confidentiality might need to be broken, such as if there’s a serious risk of harm to yourself or someone else, or if required by law.

I’ll also take a few practical details, like your contact information and GP details, just in case of an emergency.

Understanding what counselling is

Counselling provides time and space for you to talk freely, be heard without judgement, and reflect on what’s happening in your life. It’s not about telling you what to do, but about working together to help you find clarity, understanding, and ways forward that feel right for you.

The rest of the session

Once the formalities are covered, the rest of the session is yours to use however you wish. You might want to talk about what has brought you to counselling, share what’s been difficult, or simply get a feel for what it’s like to talk in this space. Sessions last 50 minutes (40-45 minutes for children), giving you time to begin exploring your thoughts and feelings.

Looking ahead

Towards the end of the session, we can look at whether you’d like to book another appointment. Many clients choose to set something up straight away, but if you prefer to take some time to reflect before deciding, that’s absolutely fine too.

A friendly, approachable space

Starting counselling can feel like a big step, but my hope is that you’ll leave your first session feeling heard, respected, and more at ease about the process. It’s the beginning of a supportive, confidential relationship where the focus is entirely on you.

If you’ve never been to counselling before, I hope this gives you a clearer idea of what to expect. And if you have — what was your experience like the first time you went?